Love or Lust?

LOVE  or  LUST?

First of all, what is "cheh nim"(Lust)?
A simple question, here's the illustration. When a guy notices a hot and sexy girl, his first thought will be, "Wao!! This girl has long legs, slim waist, pretty face...... " The following second thought will be what we called "cheh nim" (Lust). True, a man is that shallow. I admit it. But this is nature, men are born to conquer women. That's why muscles look good on men but not women.

So let us explore more about lust, how you differentiate love and lust.


Dear man who is single,
As the population of man is greater than woman, being single is really common, dont belittle yourself, it's not your fault. It's just because it's a guy who is sitting next to you in class, your neighbours are too old for you, all the hot girls have a boyfriend.....Well, it's hard to find the right girl. Nevertheless, dont worry, you'll say goodbye to single life soon enough, when you found your perfect match.

However, please bear in mind that love should always be the only reason for you to be in a relationship. Not Lust!! Yeah, you saw a girl, she's attractive, beautiful, s-shaped body, and then you approach her, get her number and facebook. You try your best to impress her with your looks and jokes. Finally, you manage to hook her up, and let your lust/libido drive your actions.

Mission accomplished... But is that alright? Is that the ever-lasting love that we are talking about?  True, there is a small fraction of couples that started up with lust, and ended up living happily together. But what we all know is, this kind of relationship does not last in most cases!!
The error in love is because of Lust! Natural attraction between the sexes is sacred and pure. Did you slept with that girl merely to satisfy your lustful needs? What you'll have done is, breaking up a girl's heart that believed you and is willing to love you with everything she had. If you are a guy with a heart, shame and sadness will almost certainly follow the culmination of lust.

So, next time, before you really want to hook up with a girl, ask yourself, do you really love her? What are you trying to get from her? her body? Perhaps you can also ask yourself, do you know her well? Do you know how's she like when she's mad and still think it's alright? Do you enjoy talking to her? Do the both of you share the same interest? Do you have the feeling "It's her!!"?

and most importantly, ask yourself, LOVE or LUST?


Dear man who is in a relationship,
Alright, you love your girlfriend. You can't live without her. When you look into her eyes, you know that there is a strong affection between the both of you. It's pure love between you and her. You cease/halt any sexual love desires for your girlfriend because it will be lustful. Alright, leave your girlfriend, she needs sex!! Everyone on earth need sex.

Lust is totally different from the natural desire for sexual love of man and woman. Sexual desire is definitely needed!! If not how to reproduce~? Sex somehow acts as a lubricant in a relationship. Besides gratifying each other's sexual impulses, it symbolises a commitment. A commitment that you and her are a whole, each completes the others' half.. What really makes a girl feel good is the feeling of giving, to give all she had to her love one. . So, if you really love your girl, before you drop your pants, first ask yourself a question, "Are you willing to give her commitment?".






Take Care,
Jimmy & West