What A Man Fears Of A Women.

• Menstruation. Yup, this is the period where we men should just keep our mouth shut and do what ever is asked by our women. Because this is the period where women have the license to do whatever they want, eg. lose their temper, as they can claim it as pre-menstrual syndrome.

• Ask men to shop with them. I'm not saying that men don't enjoy shopping, as men need to shop too. Yeah, we love designer clothes, cool accessories, shiny shoes, and Colognes too! But I believe most men won't enjoy shopping with women, because we don't buy bras and G-strings. And we hate "which look better on me?" questions.

• Act cute. Some women are really good in acting cute, it's innate, it looks genuine and natural! However, unfortunately, it's only for some women. You don't want to end up looking like this:

 (please practice in front of a mirror, ladies.) :)

• Lose their temper. They scream, they cry, they simply throw everything and anything within their reach. This freaks men out, especially when they throw something expensive.

• Mood Swings. Women always have all sorts of excuses for their mood swings. This can be quite disturbing. Imagine when you are talking about something to your girl, and out of a sudden, your girl turns moody. You simply don't know what's going on. You probably start to try to recapture the past starting from the day where you first met her until today, to figure out how you offended her. But, you just cant find the answer and you sit there lost of words. Scary right?

• Question men. Some popular questions : Do you still love me? Who is more important? Where and when we first met? Which blouse suits me better (even though the two look almost the same)? Do I look better (After having a not-even-an-inch hair cut)? Starting from the day you got into a relationship with a girl, your life has became a quiz game, where you have questions to answer everyday, and the consequences of having a wrong answer may lead to loss of $$.( because you'll need to buy gifts to make it up to your girl.)

• Giving too many comments/Advices/babble too much. After having a hard day at work, school, family etc, we'll like to share with our girl, just to let some stress out. However, sometimes some women just tend babble too much!! This is actually really depressing, and (I'm sorry to say this but) it's really annoying at times. We know that they are just trying to console us, to make us feel better, but what we really need is a good listener. That's all!!

• Ask men their financial status. It will definitely be distressing for guys that do not have much money in their pockets. For the rich, they don't want their girlfriend to know how rich they are, because the girl will be more into the money than the guy itself.

• Girls that spend money like hell. Unless you are some kind of millionaire, i guess this is one of the most dreadful affair that a man is afraid about a women!

• Lazy. Girls that are lazy can be really scary. Imagine your girl sleeping more than 10 hours a day! and she doesn't clean up, doesn't make-up, doesn't exercise, etc. There's a quite famous saying that sounds like this, " there's no ugly woman in this world, only a lazy woman!" A women that doesn't really attend to her looks will definitely turn into an ugly women no matter how pretty she was.

• Dependent/clingy. Some overly-dependent girlfriend wants to spend all of her time with her partner. She will call you again and again in a day, and say that she just wants to listen to your voice. Scary right? The fact is that you cant really spend all your time together with your girl, you have friends and interests that you need to address independently. The way to solve this problem is to build up your girls social confidence,so that she will be able to make friends.

• Always seeking for replacements. This is also included in my top fearsome list! A girl in this relationship is always seeking for a better guy and she thinks she deserves more! whereas a guy in this kind of relationship is always afraid of being replaced. If i'm in this kind of relationship, i will definitely break off with that girl! no doubt! no matter how hot she is! :)

Well, this is the list that we can think of... If you have more to share, please leave a comment. We'll be glad to read from you! ;)




Take care,
Jimmy and West

Love or Lust?

LOVE  or  LUST?

First of all, what is "cheh nim"(Lust)?
A simple question, here's the illustration. When a guy notices a hot and sexy girl, his first thought will be, "Wao!! This girl has long legs, slim waist, pretty face...... " The following second thought will be what we called "cheh nim" (Lust). True, a man is that shallow. I admit it. But this is nature, men are born to conquer women. That's why muscles look good on men but not women.

So let us explore more about lust, how you differentiate love and lust.


Dear man who is single,
As the population of man is greater than woman, being single is really common, dont belittle yourself, it's not your fault. It's just because it's a guy who is sitting next to you in class, your neighbours are too old for you, all the hot girls have a boyfriend.....Well, it's hard to find the right girl. Nevertheless, dont worry, you'll say goodbye to single life soon enough, when you found your perfect match.

However, please bear in mind that love should always be the only reason for you to be in a relationship. Not Lust!! Yeah, you saw a girl, she's attractive, beautiful, s-shaped body, and then you approach her, get her number and facebook. You try your best to impress her with your looks and jokes. Finally, you manage to hook her up, and let your lust/libido drive your actions.

Mission accomplished... But is that alright? Is that the ever-lasting love that we are talking about?  True, there is a small fraction of couples that started up with lust, and ended up living happily together. But what we all know is, this kind of relationship does not last in most cases!!
The error in love is because of Lust! Natural attraction between the sexes is sacred and pure. Did you slept with that girl merely to satisfy your lustful needs? What you'll have done is, breaking up a girl's heart that believed you and is willing to love you with everything she had. If you are a guy with a heart, shame and sadness will almost certainly follow the culmination of lust.

So, next time, before you really want to hook up with a girl, ask yourself, do you really love her? What are you trying to get from her? her body? Perhaps you can also ask yourself, do you know her well? Do you know how's she like when she's mad and still think it's alright? Do you enjoy talking to her? Do the both of you share the same interest? Do you have the feeling "It's her!!"?

and most importantly, ask yourself, LOVE or LUST?


Dear man who is in a relationship,
Alright, you love your girlfriend. You can't live without her. When you look into her eyes, you know that there is a strong affection between the both of you. It's pure love between you and her. You cease/halt any sexual love desires for your girlfriend because it will be lustful. Alright, leave your girlfriend, she needs sex!! Everyone on earth need sex.

Lust is totally different from the natural desire for sexual love of man and woman. Sexual desire is definitely needed!! If not how to reproduce~? Sex somehow acts as a lubricant in a relationship. Besides gratifying each other's sexual impulses, it symbolises a commitment. A commitment that you and her are a whole, each completes the others' half.. What really makes a girl feel good is the feeling of giving, to give all she had to her love one. . So, if you really love your girl, before you drop your pants, first ask yourself a question, "Are you willing to give her commitment?".






Take Care,
Jimmy & West